When
You Die and Leave Your Cat Behind
by
Ray Anderson
As
cat owners we're constantly fussing over our cat's welfare. We buy
special food, we take our annual trips to the vet and we provide
a safe and comfortable home for our companion.
We
also worry about how we'll cope when our cat dies. How will we explain
this to the other members of our family? If you've been a cat owner
for a considerable amount of time the odds are that you've learned
how to manage the loss of your cat. It's inevitable, primarily because
of the length-of-life discrepancy between us and cats.
One
problem that very few of us have ever seriously considered, however,
is what will happen to our cat if we die first? Who will take care
of our pet?
There
is the common misconception that cats are aloof, standoffish and
thus able to fend for themselves at any time. In fact, loved cats
are very loyal, full of character and very dependent on us, especially
when they're older. Our untimely death will cause massive chaos
to them.
Animal
shelter volunteers will tell you that old cats brought to the shelter
by family or friends of the deceased, are in such turmoil because
of the passing of their owners, that many of them will not eat or
sleep, and that their health will suffer tremendously. They loved
their owners as much as their owners loved them, and they grew dependent
on them, not only for their food and shelter, but also for the love
that the owners gave them. They miss their owners terribly and many,
unfortunately, will die from grief.
Although
the shelter will care for these cats and attempt to place them with
the very few families who'll adopt older cats, the statistics show
that eventually most of these cats are put down.
It's
heartbreaking to think of your cat in such a difficult time. There
really is only one sensible way to prepare for the possibility of
your passing before your cat's, and that is that you'll have to
make the arrangements to find another loving owner ahead of time.
Talk
to your friends and family members who may already know your cat.
Pay attention to how they interact with your cat and how your cat
interacts with them. Is there someone who is especially close to
your cat who might take it when it's time?
It's
never good to assume that anyone will automatically take care of
your cat if something happens to you. Taking in a pet, especially
an older cat is not an easy matter and arrangements such as these
should be discussed in great detail with the potential new owner.
Finally, a letter of understanding written by you, explaining in
detail the arrangements that have been agreed to should be sent.
Although not a formal contract, it is psychologically more binding
than a handshake.
Along
with that letter include written instructions that will be helpful
in assisting your cat adjust to its new owner. What is your cat's
favorite food? What are its habits, good and bad? What are some
of the special things that you did with your cat that the new owner
could do? Anything that will help your cat adjust to its new and
initially frightening environment can be written down.
We
love our cats and they love us, and we don't want to think about
what happens when either one of us dies. And yet, we have to be
responsible and plan for the care of our cats much as we do for
our loved human family members.
It's
the responsible thing to do!
The
above article is written by an independent author and may not represent
the views of The Refined Feline
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